Falling In Love

Written by: Maria Elouisa E. Enerlan
Date written: March 14, 2013

When you think of your past love, you may see it as a failure. When time comes that you find a new love, you might see the past as a teacher. In the game of love, it doesn’t really matter if who won or who lost. What is important is that you know when to hold on and when to let go. You would know if you really love someone when you want him or her to be happy even if their happiness means that you’re not a part of it. Everything happens for a reason and what’s best for each other. If the person you really love doesn’t love you back, don’t be afraid to love someone else again, for you’ll never if the relationship is for keeps not unless you give it a try. You would never love a person you love not unless you took the risk for love.

Love strives in hurting. If you don’t get hurt, you wouldn’t learn how to love. We should all know that love doesn’t hurt all the time. Though the hurting is still there to test you and help you grow to a much better person. Don’t find love, let love find you. That’s why it’s called “FALLING IN LOVE” because you don’t force yourself to fall. You just fall. We should always remember that you can’t finish a book without closing its chapters. If you want to go on, then you have to leave the past as you turn the pages of a book. Love can’t be destroyed by a single failure or won by a single caress. It is a lifetime venture in which we are always learning, discovering, and growing.

The greatest irony of love is letting go when you needed to hold on and holing on when you needed to let go. We lose someone we love only when we are destined to find someone else who can love us even more that we could love ourselves. When it comes to “FALLING OUT OF LOVE”, it would take some time to heal and get back on your feet. Just don’t make the same mistake of doing the same thing that made you stumble for the first time. To love is to risk rejection, to live is to risk dying, to hope is to risk failure. Despite of it all, you should gain enough courage to take a risk because life would mean nothing if we didn’t try to risk something that is important or dear to us. In order to reach for another is to risk in being involve into something that would bring great meaning to our lives, to show your feelings is one way of showing your true self to the other person.

How should we define love? Fall but do not stumble. Be constant but not too persistent. Share and never be unfair. Understand and try not to be too demanding. Hurt but never keep the pain.

Love is like a knife. It could stab the heart or it could carve wonderful images into the soul that would always last for a lifetime. Love is supposed to be the most wonderful feeling. It should inspire you and give you so much joy and strength within yourself, but sometimes the things that you give could also hurt you in the end. Loving people means giving them the freedom to choose who they want to be and where they want stay. Loving someone means giving him the freedom to find his way back home, whether it leads them towards you or away from you. You should always be thankful for all the heartaches and the tears, for the gloomy days and years wasted because this helps you understand that there were the things that helped you grow.

Love is a painful risk to take, but we should learn to accept it no matter how scary or painful it is. Only then you’ll experience the fullness of humanity and that is love. Only love can hurt your heart, fill your desire, and tear you apart. Only love could make you cry and only love knows why you are experiencing the feeling of being in love. If you’re not ready to cry, if you’re not ready to take the risk, if you’re not ready to feel the pain, then you’re not ready to fall in love. There would be a time in our lives when we are afraid to fall in love because every time we do, we get hurt. That’s when I realized why it’s called falling in love.

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