When To Let Go

Imagine this, in your hand is a very precious creation, so fragile, so valuable that if you keep on holding, it would either stay or fall apart. But you loved this creature so much that letting it go would be like letting go of your life as well. So much that sometimes you wished it would be there forever. So much that you tend to be selfish at times, so as you could make it stay for as long as you like. Don't we all wish of something "so good" could be there forever? Don'r we all hope that happiness is there to stay?

There comes a time in our lives when we came to have a chance on someone "so nice and almost perfect" and we just find ourselves getting so intensely attracted to that person (sometimes without even realizing it). This feeling soon become a part of our everyday lives and eventually consumed our thoughts and actions to the extent that we tagged it as one of those "too good to be true" thing.

The sad part there is when we begin to realize that, this particular person feels totally nothing but friendship. A "thing" that would be forever a "thing" nothing more, nothing less. Simply, it was just a "thing". You're just a friend and that's the truth! Then in our desperate attempt to get closer (or at least, be noticed), our efforts are still hopeless and we end up sorry for ourselves.

Letting go of someone doesn't necessarily mean you have to stop loving, it only means that you allow that person to find his or her own happiness without expecting him or her to come back. Letting go is just setting the other person free (in the real sense of it), but it is also setting yourself free from all grudges, hatred, and feeling of discontent that was long kept inside your heart. You have to let go because the bitterness often puts away the strengths and weakens the littlest hope which makes our lives more miserable than ever. Worst, presenting oneself as the "most affected one" sets the nastiest impression of all time - what a loser!

The trick there is to always remember that if you lose someone today, it means that someone better is coming tomorrow. If you lose love that doesn't mean that you failed in love, right? Just regard it as another mismatch of heaven. Well, you can cry of course, or whine or shout (even growl) if you have to, but make sure that after those outbursts, you have washed away the hurt and the bitterness that the past has left with you (easier said than done, I know).

We can all survive with just beautiful memories of the past, but the real peace and happiness come only with open acceptance of what reality is today. You really don't have to forget someone you love (because it's hard). What we need to learn is how to accept the verdict of reality without being bitter or sorry for what we have become. I think it would be better that we give off that dedication and love to someone more deserving. Hmm, "who could it be?" is the next interesting question to ponder. Let go of yesterday and love will find its way back to you. And when it does, pray hard that it may be the love that will stay and last a lifetime.

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