The Art Of Letting Go

By: Maria Elouisa E. Enerlan
Date: October 17, 2007

It's over... you're gone... Why do we have to part while the love is still there? Why do we have to suffer? Why do we have to cry when someone bid goodbye? Why do beginnings have an end? Why do we have to meet someone only to lose them in the end? These are questions left unanswered. Words left unsaid. Letters left unread. Songs left unsung. Love left unexpressed. Promise left unfulfilled...

In a relationship, one of the hardest things to do is saying goodbye and letting go. It is as hard as breaking a crystal because you'll never know when you will be able to pick up the pieces again.

More often than not, the one who left feel no pain of parting. It is who stay behind who suffers, because they are left with memories of a love that was meant to be. In the beginning and at the end of a relationship we feel embarrassed to ourselves alone. Unfair as it may seem, but that's the way love goes. That's the drama, the bitter sweet of falling in love. After all, nothing is constant but change. Everything will eventually come to its end without us knowing how and why. We must forget not because we want but we have to.

In letting go, sorrows come not as a single spy but in a battalion. It seems that everywhere you go, everything you do, every song you hear, every turn of your head, every move of your body, every beat of your heart, every blink of your eye, and every breath you take always remind you of him. It's like a stab of a knife, a torture in the night. It’s funny how the whole world becomes depopulated when only one person is missing. Just imagine there are four billion people on earth, yet it seems you feel lonely and empty without the other. I don't know if it's worth calling an art, but letting go entails a special skill sparkle with a considerable space and time. Care heals all wounds, but it takes a little push on our part. Acceptance plays a part. Not all wishes come true, not all stories end with, "And they live happily ever after."

Sometimes we have to part because of circumstances beyond our control. We have to suffer, if it would mean happiness for others. We have to cry temporarily to let go of the pain. Every beginning has its end as every dawn has its dusk. It is something we can't control and something that we have to live up. Beautiful things are built in foundation of pain. It is through pain that we become stronger people. It is through the times that we get hurt we learn how to make a lasting and a fruitful relationship. Time can heal even the deepest wound love brings. We know it hurts, but the pain will always be a part of loving. Love isn't eternal, it also fades away and dies, and when it does, we shouldn't die with it. Life has to go on even if we have to start alone. The mistakes we make should make us wiser and the pain love brings should make us stronger.

There is no certainty in this world. We should cherish what we have now for tomorrow or there may be no more. It's true that losing someone dear to us can be devastatingly painful. Let us cry when we have to and pray that our tears will wash away the pain we feel inside. Let every sleepless nights open our minds to reality and each passing day teach our hearts to love again. Never let go without trying and never give up without putting a fight. Follow your heart and go where your destiny leads you. A lot of us take for granted those we hold dear in our hearts because we assume they will just be there all the time. We fail to realize that one day in God's given time, they will leave us and it will be very hard to accept. If we know, deep in our hearts that we never took the chance to show them how they mean to us.

It's over... you're gone, but life has to go on. Goodbye doesn't always mean forever. There will always be a place and time where questions will be answered, words will be spoken. Somewhere... somehow... someday...

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