Is This Really The One

Whether or not your partner is right for you it’s one of the most important decisions of your life. Your entire future depends on these choices, so how can you be sure you have picked the right one? Well, the first thing you need to do is honestly ask yourself is why you love or are with your partner? You would be surprised at the answers you hear when you ask that same question to your friends. Obviously you are going to choose a partner that you are physically attracted to. Apart from that aspect, there are a few important areas you should look at:

1.) Communication Level

When you talk to them, are they on the same level as you? How long does it take them to answer your question? Do you get bored because they answer everything else under the sun rather than the question you asked or do you enjoy the tangents they take you on?

Do they speak very slowly compared to you? Do they understand you when you speak? Can you really talk to them about absolutely anything? This may not seem important now, but could you imagine living with someone for the next 50-70 years that can never answer a direct question, frustrates you to no end by their speed of communication and just doesn’t get it when are trying to explain something to them?

2.) Common Interests

This is really a given. You have to have something in common with them to be able to be with them. Otherwise, you will have nothing to talk about and nothing to do together. Yes, physically you may have great sex, but how far can that really take you? When two people have different interests, one person usually ends up sacrificing their desires for the other person or you end up living completely separate lives.

3.) Ambitions

Do you both want the same things in life or are they going to hold you back? Are they willing to let you have that career you have always wanted even if it means working long hours plus going to school at night?

4.) Ethics Level

Do they have the same values as you? Would they feel totally OK doing something that you would have strong objections to or vice versa? Do you have the same beliefs on major issues such as religion, prejudice, raising children etc.? If not, is this something that will become a problem in the future?

5.) Grooming and Cleanliness

Are they a slob and you are the type of person that likes to keeps the house immaculate? Do you take the same level of care of your appearance?

There is a lot of false information about relationships out there. One of the biggest lies is that opposites attract. That is really just a myth. Now a lot of the things I have listed above do come down to personal choice. If comes down to what you are and are not willing to accept. Just because you have fallen in love with someone does not mean that they are the right one for you. The number of people in physically abusive relationships should be testament enough to that. One thing is for sure. Do not settle for something less than you want because you are scared of hurting them, being alone or you feel this might be the best you can get. You never know what you might have missed that was right around the corner. Settling is always settling, no matter what way you look at it. By doing so, you will be left with a lifetime of “What if”.