Wedding Guest Etiquette #1 - Receiving an Invitation

Receiving an Invitation

DO RSVP promptly 

If you receive an invitation, please RSVP - even if you have no plans attending the event or won't be able to make it. Every guest must understand that most of the wedding budget goes to the reception and it would be inconsiderate to give up a reserved seat without advising the couple. If the case may be, this will give them a chance to assign that seat to another guest on their list.

RSVP comes from s French term, "respondez s'il vous plait" which means "Please Respond".

If R.S.V.P. is written on an invitation this means that the invited guest must inform the host whether or not they plan to attend the party. This does not mean to respond only if you are attending the event nor does it mean to respond only if you're not attending. It means that the host needs a definite headcount for the planned event, and needs it by the date specified on the invitation, according to Donna Pilato of

DO make sure to know the deadline to RSVP
If you know your response, make sure you inform the couple as soon as possible. Guests should never assume that they are so important to the extent that they take their attendance to the event for granted, or they tend to ignore the invitation and just show up at the event whenever they feel like it. The couple had endured so much stress planning for their wedding and since it's their special day, they deserve to be given much consideration.

DO pay attention to which the invitation is addressed to
As a guest, you shouldn't assume that if you are invited to a wedding event, it means everyone is also invited to attend. This pertains whether the invitation is for you, you and your partner or addressed to you including your partner and children. Perhaps this is true in the rural areas, but that doesn't mean that if you give gifts to the couple, they are obliged to "Pay" for everyone who is not even invited for the event.

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